Wedding Bells

Well, Girish is getting married! Apparently it all happened over the last 2 weekends, the introduction, comparing of families suitability, the decision and boom – there you go, let’s get married. I’m really pleased for him, he is clearly delighted. His fiancee is from a village outside Pune, and I’ve been getting the lowdown on the marital do’s and don’ts.

It’s a mixture of modern and traditional – Girish has not asked for a dowry, and the young woman has studied commerce and works in her father’s business at the moment, so he has chosen someone with an education. The in-laws own a few shops too, which means there is a bit of money. However, it is clear that Girish also wants someone who can look after his mother, who suffers from arthritis and can’t walk far. Father is either dead or disappeared.  I think that means that she will stay at home a lot and do housework and cooking for the three of them. I’m sure Girish will be a great husband, however it just reminds you of the family and levels of duty that Indian society exacts. They have met twice, and he bought her a mobile as she didn’t have one, and they have talked a few times on the phone. Mainly, she has called the house to speak to his mother, which is apparently the proper way to do things. He is getting all prepared for the wedding, had a fitting for his “dress” as he calls it, a handsome type of long coat with buttons down the front in red, worn with a wedding turban. She will wear a wedding sari, they are very beautiful. Stop press -The wedding took place today – so the happy couple are pictured above.

I have found a special  kurta to wear on a trip to FabIndia. Got my hands henna’ed and arms bangled with many bangles at the mehndi  – one of the family pre-wedding ceremonies. Once in a lifetime, have to do it in style!

I have recently had my application for a bank account turned down. The paperwork has taken 3 months – and now they are refusing it because my visa runs out in August, and they need a 3 month valid visa to open an account. Eh voila! You have to laugh, it’s the only way to deal with the craziness.

Some phrases that are more Indian-English than English-English are very memorable. They seem so apt and descriptive – “What to do?”  is a general question after explaining a problem to someone. “What is your good name?” always makes me smile (perhaps I also have a bad name) “Rightside” or “leftside” shouted at the rickshaw driver, followed by “Vas!” Stop!  One of the co-ordinators in VSO Delhi always says as she transfers you to another person “Be on the line, please!” I was recently asked by a colleague to help him with the updation of his resume. And upgradation seen in today’s Times of India,  is I presume a step further…

In Hindi, “yes”  is “ha”, so you either say one “HA” with real force or “ha ha ha”, (yes yes yes ok) with a nice head wobble for emphasis. My head wobble is getting better, it’s more natural now, because I think I mimic people without realizing it. HA!


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